Filled to the Brim & Overflowing
A man stood on stage with a glass container. He filled the container with large rocks until it reached the brim. Then he added pebbles. The pebbles, being significantly smaller than the large rocks, dropped into empty spaces and gaps left among the large rocks. The container appeared full. The man then pulled out a bag of sand. He proceeded to pour sand in all the gaps and spaces left from the pebbles. Finally, we all assumed the glass was really full. But the man surprised us once again, by producing a glass of water and pouring the water into the container, until finally the container overflowed. The container was at last truly full.
While this demonstration was meant to illustrate how we should manage our priorities, I think it’s an appropriate depiction of my life.
My marriage to Xavier has been like that container. One that was full to the brim with large rocks, but had pebbles added along the way. Filling gaps and spaces in my life I didn’t know I had.
Then we welcomed our first-born son Joel in 2011. What a change to our lives being parents brought! Changes in schedules and priorities. Changes in availability for ourselves as individuals and each other as a couple. As we adjusted to these changes, another son was granted to us. Alvaro caught us by surprise in so many ways since his birth in 2013. Our children have been like the sand, filling every nook and cranny available.
But the most surprising thing about this journey in my marriage has been the love. The fierce never-giving-up-no- matter-how-hard-it-gets love. Amidst the adventures and the humdrum, amidst the fun and fears, amidst the passion, the fights, the exhaustion and life – there is love. The kind of love that fills the container of my life when I didn’t think it could get any fuller. The love that has been bestowed upon me by my husband and our children fills my cup to overflowing. No matter how crazy I feel, how exhausted I get, or how so many things in life pull at my attn- my heart is lucky enough to spill, slosh, and drip from the overflowing of love I get to give and receive.